As a result, buying the right piece of jewellery begins to feel a lot like being down to your last dart, and in the wide sprawl around the bull's-eye, around getting it right, there seems to be a thousand ways to miss the mark and get it all wrong. So, here are some suggestions — both general and more specific — to steer you in the right direction.
Listen to her
Easier said than done for many of us, but in this instance it more accurately means to be listening for when she does drop a hint. If push comes to shove, try to induce a hint: Take her to the mall on some pretense and walk her past every jewellery store in the complex. She's bound to point out something that catches her eye.
Look at her
Over the course of a week, as you see her dressed up for different occasions — work, a dinner out, a party — take inventory of each piece of jewelry she wears, noting as best you can the nature of the jewellery. Ascertaining what she wears and what she doesn’t gives you a solid head start. After all, if she never wears earrings, there’s little point buying her a pair; but if she can’t make up her mind between hoops or studs, you may be on to something.
Appraise her taste
Using the results of your inventory, then broadening that scope to include her wider style in clothes, appraise her tastes. Does she have finer tastes, getting weak-kneed in the presence of another woman’s massive diamond ring? Or are you one of the luckier guys whose companion prefers the variety and accessibility of less expensive costume jewellery?
Ask for advice
This is dangerous ground, so tread lightly. The problem with asking her friends for advice is that you’re engaging one woman in a conspiracy of silence against another , and almost inevitably something’s gonna give. Instead of having to find this out too late, eschew the friends and stick with reliable family members. Sisters are an excellent source of information, especially if they are close in age and spend a great deal of time together. No doubt they've poured of many a childhood fantasy about knights in shining armour — and their gifts.